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Sex IS Positively Pleasurable Get a Useful Important Education with Dr. Stephanie

Ruan Willow / Dr. Stephanie Season 3 Episode 349

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Ep  349: Sex IS Positively Pleasurable Get a Useful Important Education with Dr. Stephanie. We chatted about how sex is often still seen as somewhat taboo in American culture and society and how we need to rewire this viewpoint and view sex as a positive and important piece in the wholeness of our well-being. Our discussion focused on how sex negativity hurts us all, our relationships, our mental health, and our perceptions of the purpose of sex. We need to reframe sex for the entirety of our health. We talked about what shapes our sexuality and our sexual triggers is half nurture and half nature, but we can reframe any painful sexual experiences we may have had and turn them into something more positive and enjoyable. A therapist can help.

We discussed how BDSM has been around since the dawn of time, but it got negative attention in the late 60's. What most people don't understand is that it's the sub who is in full control always and it's consensual, not abusive.

We talked about how people, like the two of us, need to keep discussing sex openly and modeling openness to help those who are sexually and culturally sexually repressed. I brought up how I try and portray healthy sexuality and truth to sexual interactions in my books, and that includes particularly how women reach climax.

The clitoris has been largely ignored by medicine and society, only being first imaged in 2005, and the first model not appearing until 2010. Clitoral sexual pleasure has traditionally been downplayed, ignored, and disregarded in importance in modern times and our overall society has suffered because of that, not to mention our quality of life, our relationships, and our happiness/fulfillment.

We talked about double standards for the sexes, plus the not widely known fact that vulva genitalia do have erectile tissue and engorge just like a penis.  It basically is an inside out penis. We discussed the anatomical differences and similarities of our genitalia.

We discussed the benefits of sex toys, clit mapping, and internal mapping of the sex organ for those with a vagina. We also touched on mismatched libidos and how this may just be that the person isn't having the sex they want to have. We also chatted about dark fantasies.

She's also an expert on alternative relationships. She expressed that it's "very normal" to live an alternative lifestyle, maybe common is the best word because 1 in 25 couples in the US engages in some sort of alternative lifestyle.

Connect with Dr. Stephanie: Web: evolveyourintimacy.com
Pod:
evolveyourintimacy.com/podcast

Ruan's other erotic fiction books and NSFW audiobooks: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/
Sharing His Adventurous Wife: First Time Wife Share (Itty-Bitty Vixen) https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/sharinghisadventurouswifefirsttimewifeshareittybittyvixen

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