How Expanding Your Feminine Energy Will Improve Your Sex Life, Your Relationships, & Your Entire Life with Coach Rori Raye

Ep 359: How Expanding Your Feminine Energy Will Improve Your Sex Life, Your Relationships, & Your Entire Life with Coach Rori Raye. Rori Raye is a relationship coach who has helped many women harness their feminine energy and have the relationships, and lives they want, and plus, she's been a trainer of coaches for ten years. She teaches women, and coaches, the power of their feminine energy.

What is feminine energy? Rori stated it's feelings, emotions, being in our bodies and out of our heads, it's paying attention to what we are feeling, savoring it, and expressing it. She teaches women that we can get everything we want from our feminine energy. Our society teaches us as women to devalue, downplay, and even flat out ignore our feminine energy giving it the disdain of not being important, frivolous, and not fruitful. One example is how the word 'pussy' has come to mean a man/male/person with a penis is weak, when it should be a compliment and we women should say "hell yes I'm a pussy and I'm full of power because of it". By buying into what is fed to us, we ignore our feminine energy and essentially destroy our lives, our uniqueness, our power, our lives, our relationships, and our sex lives.  Our feminine energy is the opposite of what we've been conditioned to think, it's actually the key to our success, our relationships, our work, and our happiness--and even our orgasms! The key to our lives!

But how does it pertain to our sex lives? We need to live in the moment, focus on what we are feeling, the sensations we are feeling, and get connected with our bodies, ie. out of our heads. Sex has mechanics, of course, parts go places...but sex is not mechanical. But many women get trapped by thinking of sex just as mechanical only and then they are not in touch with what they are feelings, and therefore can't even communicate it properly to their partners. Everyone loses.

Women need to pay attention to their feminine energy in:
*their relationships
*daily life tasks
*work
*relationships
*self-care time
*SEX!

Rori gives many useful tips, wonderful pieces of advice, and even action plans for scenarios.  Remember embracing feminine energy leads to empowerment and growth, and the betterment of your life, which will also better the lives of those around you.

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Transcript

Episode 359 of 359. Season 3. This transcript was generated by Substack. It is not 100% accurate. Please email ruanwillow@gmail.com with any questions.

SPEAKER 2

Hello this is Ruan Willow with the Oh Fck Yeah with Ruan Willow podcast.

I'm excited you're here today as I am every day you join me on the podcast.

Today I have a guest.

So today is one of those days where I'm interviewing someone and Tuesdays come back on Tuesdays where I have erotic romance and erotic fiction where there's a story that I narrate.

Today my person that I'm talking to is totally amazing.

We had knockout of a conversation.

Coach Rory at coachrory.com.

She is totally amazing.

She's not a sexpert, but she has a free guide called How Jane Got Jim's Commitment.

Rory Ray's Modern Siren Tools for Love are totally unique, original, fun, fast, and incredibly effective.

And to help women all over the world both have a successful career they love and to get affordable coaching.

The title of her book is Have the Relationship You Want.

Rory's built a school for coaches as well, Rory Ray Coach Training now in its 10th year with an amazing track record of turning out superstar coaches.

She has the following books, Have the Relationship You Want, Strong Surrender, and The Business Siren's Handbook.

And her digital and live programs with her unique modern siren methodology have helped hundreds of thousands of women succeed in love and everywhere else in their lives.

To Get Everything You Want From Your Feminine Energy.

Yes, we talk about feminine energy today and it's totally an amazing mind-blowing conversation.

She has so much knowledge and so much awesome stuff to share.

Wealth of knowledge and she's just got it going on.

Feminine energy is what we talked about and how it works in all areas of life.

and sex and how to feel like you experience your emotions and express them in words and let go of old patterns and experiment and explore love your life build a strong deep and long lasting connection and relationship we had an amazing chat

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So

Are you ready?

Let's go!

Hello everyone this is Ruan Willow with the Oh Fck Yeah with Ruan Willow podcast and I'm super excited to talk to this person today.

We have an amazing setup that we're going to talk about.

I'm super excited to talk about feminine energy and coaching and all these amazing things.

I want to introduce you to Rory Rae and she is a

Rory Ray's modern siren tools for love are totally unique, original, fun, fast and incredibly effective and to help women all over the world both have a successful career they love and to get affordable coaching and have the relationship you want.

Rory's built a school for coaches Rory Ray coach training now in its 10th year with an amazing track record of turning out superstar coaches her books have the relationship you want strong surrender in the business sirens handbook and her digital and live programs with her unique modern siren methodology have helped hundreds of thousands of women succeed in love and everywhere else in their lives to get everything you want from your feminine energy

Welcome!

Hi Ruan, this is awesome.

I know, I'm really excited.

So first of all, you know, I think we all kind of have an idea of what feminine energy is, but what is it really and how does it work in all areas of our life, including in sex?

SPEAKER 1

Wow, that was a big question.

Let's just say we all have masculine energy and feminine energy and

everybody's talking about it now it's a big deal so let's just think about this when you're in masculine energy you're a male or a woman you're doing you're thinking you're in your brain you're figuring stuff out which is most of us operate these days because the complexities of life are almost too much for us to be emotionally involved so we get all into our heads and we start thinking and it feels like neck up if you put your hand on your neck

you can kind of feel when your energy is above that neck as opposed to in your whole body and being in your whole body would make you feel more in what I would call feminine energy more in touch with your emotions so we all know what this feels like when you're led by your head oh I should do that I need to go do this I have to take care of that oh my gosh what did he just say as opposed to how do I feel

in this moment.

How do I feel about doing this?

And if we let our lives be led by our feminine energy, we'll start doing more of what we want and less of what we don't want.

We will find ourselves much less getting into situations with men and in work and at life and with friends where we don't feel good because we think we should do this or that.

This is what nice girls get into trouble with.

I need to be nice as opposed to I really want this.

So essentially emotional feeling is feminine energy, thinking, machinating, strategizing stuff is masculine energy.

SPEAKER 2

Right and you know what just flitted through my brain because I've been working all morning right I've been like go go go go go and I'm like dang I need to take a shower so right before I came down here I took a shower all of a sudden I feel so different I feel energized I feel like wow I feel great and to me that's kind of what like what you're saying it's like all in my head all morning and then when I go take a shower poof I'm like again you know everything's like different

SPEAKER 1

right for you yes in that moment and that's what's so important we're all unique for some people oh i need to take a shower i need to take a shower and that's on your mind all morning i can't i mean really we're we're i'm speaking in front of cameras you can't smell me i can't smell you

You know, but in life, I need to take a shower or this or did you take a shower?

You're in masculine energy and how many of us step into the shower and then start thinking about work or the thing they're going to do next and you barely even remember being in there and getting out.

So that's a masculine experience, but you uniquely felt the water.

You felt the energy.

You felt the moment where you were doing something for you.

And that was a feminine energy experience.

So it doesn't matter what it is you're doing.

It's where you're coming from.

SPEAKER 2

Right.

And I cannot tell you how many epiphanies I've had in the shower where I'm like, Oh, that's the best idea I ever had in my life.

You know, like I just I'll just like, you know, it's like, hey, I get epiphanies in the shower, which I think is fantastic because, you know, it's a Monday and I'm just washing myself and my brain is more freed up.

So, you know, yeah, I can totally understand what you're saying.

And we don't dwell much in the feminine energy, at least in our country.

Right.

We're all like, this is what we got to do.

Go, go, go.

SPEAKER 1

Yes.

I think

all over the world people are stuck in that.

I'm sure you know women who can feel and women who have blocked their feelings and I think this has a lot to do with sex.

I mean I'm sure that you're encountering this the concept of I'm with this person I'm with two people

I'm in this situation where all that's being required of me is to be there and to feel and to experience and to touch and to be touched.

And instead, so many of us get into our heads, oh, I need to do this for him or how is he reacting to me?

Or what should I be doing?

Or this feels uncomfortable.

It's not in your vocabulary.

It should be, what happens is you tighten up instead, but you keep doing.

that is kind of where I like to sit with I tell women all the time they're so worried about sleeping with a guy too soon I say no that's not it you could sleep with him in the back room the five minutes after you meet him and that relationship could go on for the rest of your life it's how you take that in and how you express it and how you experience it that's the important thing I think there's that's very true like I think a lot of women like they almost get like awkward or uncomfortable when they're having sex because

SPEAKER 2

for what you just said, you know?

SPEAKER 3

And then there's the issue too of so many women, I think it's more common with women who don't even want to talk about sex.

Like they can't even like discuss it with their partner or they refuse to.

SPEAKER 1

Or yeah, they don't ask for what they want.

They don't recognize what they want.

They don't honor what they want.

And they go around trying to be strategic about it.

How many people cheat on people they love in relationships just because they can't talk to them about what the problem is?

really I mean and we're all we're all afraid that if I talk to him everything will fall apart right right and I think that can happen when you talk to a man especially or a masculine energy woman and which is a great place to be if that's where you want to be right right right but you want to be what feels right to you so

if you are afraid i'll make this right now if you're afraid to talk to your man about what's not working for you in sex because you're afraid you're going to wreck the relationship yes you may wreck the relationship because he may not be able to be sensitive enough or smart enough to do what you need right right and on the other hand he might go oh really and he might just completely be

So we, you know, we stop ourselves so much in life by not asking, talking, and it's kind of scary to think this, but what if speaking your truth is scarier than actually doing stuff?

Isn't that weird?

Yes!

You can get in your masculinity and do stuff by disconnecting your whole body and your whole self and then afterwards you feel terrible.

Well what happened during that time when you were doing it?

And it wasn't your fault.

It's never your fault.

Right.

We're just all terrified.

So I guess being in your feminine energy is a courageous move.

And you get way more out of sex because you can actually be there.

Yeah.

Give yourself to the moment and start you know having amazing I can speak say almost whatever I want here right.

This is awesome.

You can say whatever you want.

As many orgasms one right after the other as humanly possible in your body and literally what I call flying around the room.

You just fly around the room and you lose your sense of

brain.

And the ability to do that is just so for me sacred and amazing that if we could all get enough feminine energy and just let go, that would just be an awesome thing for your relationship and your relationship with yourself.

SPEAKER 3

And I think, I don't know what you think about this, but I think if women have a hard time doing that or they don't understand themselves, they should just play on their own, right?

SPEAKER 2

Yes.

Masturbate, get sex toys, you know, and just take time.

SPEAKER 3

Just do it.

SPEAKER 1

It's crucial.

Everything requires practice, right?

You can't play the midnight sonata on the piano just by the first time you sit down.

It requires practice.

You need to know what your sensitive parts are and you need to discover when you black out and go numb because if you start playing with yourself and masturbating and touching yourself and it starts to feel good, at a certain point you may just stop consciousness.

You may just completely go, nope, I got to take care of the dishes.

When that happens, you know, notice and say that was the best practice ever you discovered where the point where you go into masculine energy is.

And then you just keep practicing.

And after a while, you'll be able to do it with another person.

SPEAKER 2

I like that because it kind of helps you realize that you can actually practice at this.

It's not an innate ability.

It's a hey, you can do this.

You just have to try.

And the more you do it, the easier it will become.

I think that's kind of a freeing statement.

SPEAKER 1

a totally freeing statement and just to follow what you just said how many of us instead of practicing with ourselves try to practice with men or women and end up closing down even more right because we're just it's like you know psychotherapy

Don't get me started but when you go back and try to dig into the things that upset you and the things that were in your past, you just make everything worse because you just create more walls and more defensiveness.

You need somebody who is to work with, stand with, who can actually hold space for you and that's what sex can do for you with a person who can hold that space for you to just melt.

and the first person you need to have that experience with is yourself.

We don't allow ourselves this space to feel and be and be ourselves and find out who we are and let ourselves you know decompose completely.

That is that is the first step and I feel like crying right now that is the most important step

And then finding someone who can hold that space for you, that just happens naturally once you can do it for yourself.

SPEAKER 2

Right.

And I think so many people, so many women especially, are kind of, well, we're kind of cultured to not masturbate.

Like I always feel like the joke is, you know, the teenage boys in the shower, we know what he's doing.

But nobody ever talks about that way about young girls.

We aren't like allowed or it's not okay.

I mean, it actually gets joked about with young men, but young women, it's not even broached.

It's taboo.

It's you shouldn't do that.

So we're cultured to not touch ourselves.

We're cultured to not know our bodies.

SPEAKER 1

Isn't that sad?

Isn't that kind of a worldwide situation of female disempowerment?

Yeah, it really is.

It really is.

In other words, our sexuality is so powerful to a lot of men in the world that they'll do anything to stop that.

Right.

SPEAKER 2

And once we realize that.

Wow.

SPEAKER 1

Wow.

Power.

We have power.

On the other hand though and I'm sure you know this and you know I'm thrilled to be able to talk about it is how many women are having sex when they really don't feel right?

Yes.

How many women are trying to change themselves into a more freed person and to empower themselves by just having sex whenever they want?

Really what's happening is men don't understand that.

Boys don't understand that.

The boys do not have any concept of who you are and how deep you are and your emotional self and they surely don't understand your body.

So much of the time we just end up following direction when what we're looking for is a person who's not directing us because they're completely oblivious to us, but somebody who actually gets us and holds space.

Can you imagine?

That's what love is, I guess, but you can also have great sex where a person is holding a space for you casually.

with a friend.

Right.

You know we need a sense of romance, friendship, connection.

That's what women need.

Emotional connection and an ability to feel emotions in somebody's presence.

Well if sex is making you mechanical and shutting down, I certainly was that person.

It's not helping you.

SPEAKER 2

Oh.

And so many women do get in that place.

I feel like that's so common.

I mean, you know, and I feel like especially women in midlife, I feel like, I don't know how younger women are, but I feel like it's just for some reason that generation, you know, I did see somebody do a quote, which I thought was really interesting.

They said that women in midlife are kind of, they're kind of stuck between where they are empowered, yet they're still transitioning out of the old style where, you know, women were more in the home.

And so they're literally doing everything.

SPEAKER 1

Oh yes and

I would love to talk about that.

I have moved from love and relationship.

I've expanded into feminine energy in the workplace because we all work.

And what happens is we go to work as engineers and lawyers and doctors and we're forced into this masculine energy head thing where we're not allowed to ever show feelings.

And so we act like that out there and we go, go, go in business.

And then we wonder why we don't have

a love relationship that feels good and where we can just surrender to us not to another person but to us and here's why I'm saying feminine energy in the workplace is the best thing ever let me give you a how-to quick rather than you know go to my website and learn how but yeah you can go to my websites and learn here here's an idea

start to just say my feelings are important and we get pushback no they're not other people will say no they're not no forget that no so start sitting in an empty room and cry and seeing if you can't cry or if you're angry what's going on with you and most of the time i think we're angry because we are afraid to experience the pain men have been doing this forever but we can't start that way we got too much going on and

you know the kids and there's an emotional aspect to us that we need to expand in order to stop this mind mind thing this mind stuff that is just killing all of us and disempowering all of us and making us all feel like marionettes instead of like women instead of people so what you want to do is every moment when you have a free moment really track your body really let your eyes go let your jaw go

let your shoulders go down breathe into your whole body feel everything your stomach start to feel your vagina this is i can say that on the other channel i know you can let your vagina go sideways let it expand sideways for some reason sideways feels

more than anything else and you might likely feel very turned on surprise just by feeling that letting it go down your leg down your feet and if you do that consistently and just practice that practice it like the scales all day long you will be able to practice that in the middle of a business meeting and you're going to feel weak

practice it in the middle of the business meeting and see if you can operate both from your entire feeling of your entire body and let your brain speak and after a while of practicing like that you will start to experience how you become much bigger more powerful your feminine energy showing up it's like you know Wonder Woman it's like

Power that you have that that guy across the way does not have and all of a sudden you start to be aware that you can also get things done from your Want from well, I want to do that project not I have to do that project and I'm gonna do it really well but

I really want to feel the success of that.

Soon as you start to feel your emotions backing you up like that and fulfilling the action that you're taking, you're going to start to feel more powerful, bigger and more yourself.

And when you carry that through in parts of the world like

tasks and going to the market and being with your kids, everything will shift for you.

And pretty soon you'll be able to bring that emotional self into your sex life and you'll be able to feel what you're missing.

And then we have to learn how to do words now to speak to other people.

SPEAKER 2

Right.

One thing that really struck me as you were talking was, okay, so more men have been in the workforce for longer than women.

SPEAKER 3

And so we're coming into it and we're trying to be them.

We're not them.

Yes we're suiting up.

SPEAKER 2

We should not be doing that because we can't be them.

We're not them.

We don't feel good like that.

Right.

So that's why we need to get that out of our heads.

We aren't them.

We don't try to be them.

Why would we?

We're women.

You don't have to be into their mold.

I love what you said and this actually because when you were describing it thinking about how you're feeling in a meeting I in my brain I was like oh yeah because normally you're sitting there thinking okay this and this and that oh he said this oh he said that oh she said this and you're not doing any feeling whatsoever.

SPEAKER 1

Exactly, exactly.

So once you start incorporating that into your life you'll start to see how it infuses everything and all of a sudden amazingly enough all the thinking stuff becomes not so important all of a sudden you're really spending a lot of energy assessing situations where

it's nowhere near the power source that how you feel about that situation comes out.

And it takes a little while to learn how to go from the feeling to the action.

I call it your feminine energy becoming the action.

So your inner boy, your masculine energy takes over and takes the, it's like, I want to go someplace.

I want to go to that store and check that out.

Well, you want to go to the store, your inner boy, your masculine energy

Takes the keys, the car gets you over to the place.

You get out of the car and you're like in Wonderland and you don't have to do anything except we let our brains take over.

Oh I shouldn't be here.

I shouldn't be having a good time.

I should be taking care of that.

Blah, blah, blah.

It takes practice and you start revering and honoring yourself as who you are and this is how you find what it is you want to do in business and it is really a great directional.

I mean I'm an entrepreneur.

So it's so much better to get direction from your inner feminine than to let your strategic mind tell you what to do.

Nine times out of 10 as I've discovered, that masculine energy will lead you to the wrong place.

It'll lead you to pushing and shoving and literally pushing people away in business rather than magnetizing them towards you because you feel a sensation about what you're doing and you feel sexy.

And it feels full body and it's awesome.

Oh yeah, for sure.

SPEAKER 3

I know what you're saying.

I have felt that too.

And how I approach things, I can feel the difference.

And I don't think that several years ago I would have had any clue of what I just said.

SPEAKER 2

Like this is something that I learned recently.

I mean, I haven't known this very long, but I think it's really, really so true and so amazing.

SPEAKER 3

And it's a growth piece in life that all women need to approach and go through.

They just need to do it.

SPEAKER 1

Yes, you hit it right on the head for me.

SPEAKER 2

So how do we talk about these things?

Like you said, we need to acknowledge our feelings.

SPEAKER 3

How do we get comfortable like just, you know, just talking about it?

SPEAKER 1

Well the way I start with my tools I start everybody when live coaching so I have a whole school for coaches and train a lot of coaches so that they can work with you.

I'm just one person and I'm ridiculously expensive now but I can train you or you to to use this technique to work with women around you and pretty soon

the one-to-one it's very role-playing I was an actress my whole life so it's a role-playing experience where you can actually be there for another person to open up and when they feel like they can open up in your presence and you're completely non-judgmental and you're asking them to use words like this so one of my big tools is called feeling messages it's not I messages you know I feel this so that you don't push another person it's a feeling message so you say I feel

and I want to tell you it's weird as all get out for somebody who's never done it before so you have to start with things that aren't like bigly emotional like I feel warm the sun feels good in my skin that tree feels so green the air feels so fresh that's not too scary right so you could start with that so somebody says how how was your day right we're used to saying oh this happened that happened that was good that was fine right no you want to start with

Oh I felt so fresh when I looked out the sun was shining.

Oh I felt the gray in the sky and it felt a little kind of new to me or weird and you start you feel weird saying that at first so you have to start with a coach would be great but start with somebody who's okay with it

and pretty soon you get used to it and before you know it you're talking from feelings all the time and pretty soon you can say to a guy when you touched me there I felt really good I feel really wonderful when you touch this part of my breast I really feel amazing when you put your hand on my jaw oh my gosh when you look just looked in my eyes I just felt like tingles all over me

it's it's that practice of talking about the rainbow rather than you know difficult stuff that helps you learn how to talk about the difficult stuff and practicing with a friend or with a coach really helps you rehearse the way we rehearse with little actresses and pretty soon you can speak like that to a guy and before you know it he is completely mesmerized by you because men are missing that in their life

they are so busy in their brain they are just so hungry for somebody who has feelings and that's why they get involved with overly dramatic and emotional women and why we try not to be that and believe it or not drama is masculine energy it's that your real feelings you're blocking them and so they come out as drama and anger when that's not really what you feel what you really feel is love i love you i want to feel love i want to feel touched i want to feel wanted

and instead we're saying you didn't do that what you know we're getting masculine energy so practicing how it feels to wear a pair of pants that feel great on you feels stupid so that's why you want to start doing it and practicing that I hope that was helpful

SPEAKER 2

Oh, absolutely.

I think it's just, it's got to give people hope to be like, okay, I'm not stuck being this way.

I don't have to do this.

I can get out.

I can change the way I think and I can live in the moment and I can say what I feel.

You know what I mean?

Like you don't have to be trapped by what you think you have to do.

SPEAKER 1

That was awesome.

That was putting everything I said into one piece.

Thank you.

SPEAKER 2

I think it's amazing I think it's just awesome to think about feminine energy because it's something that we don't hear a lot about right like it's not something that you just don't hear that so I think a lot of people are like oh what does that mean you know or it gets it's an insult you know like oh you know oh like I'm gonna say oh you're a pussy like it's a negative thing right

Like we should be like, yeah, Fck yeah, I'm a pussy.

Hell yes.

You know what I mean?

But it's it's an insult.

It's become an insult in our world and our culture to call someone a pussy.

Right.

SPEAKER 1

Wow.

That was amazing.

What you said was brilliant.

Once we get used to experiencing how we back ourselves up when we hear something.

I teach women if you go to a bar and you want to meet people and a guy comes up to you and he says why are you got nice boobs?

99% of women would take offense and want to push him away or

be desperate and go yeah yeah yeah which is very rare I think.

Instead I teach women to go wow thank you.

SPEAKER 2

Right!

Which is where I am now too.

Wow what?

Thank you.

Take pride in that compliment.

Why not take pride in that compliment?

Why be offended?

SPEAKER 1

Very interesting.

Why do we feel offended?

Who do you think taught us to feel offended?

Men.

Men.

So if you look at my stuff, this whole siren thing, basically that is the siren legend that I turn around.

So the siren legend is Odessus and his boat are going back from the Peloponnese War, of course from war, and they're going back home.

And Siren Island is famous in that legend.

for housing creatures with wings and fins who are grotesque though and what happens is the sailors sing and the song is so mesmerizing that the sailors stop their boat really, they crash on the rocks of Siren Island, they climb up the rocks and the sirens eat them.

Well who do you think made up that legend?

Men.

Afraid of women.

And the power of women, right?

The power we have, the power of our feminine sexuality, the power of our ability to give birth, the power of our emotions, all of that.

That legend is built from fear and of trying to put women down.

So I turned it around and said,

This has actually put wax in his ears and I didn't put wax in his ears he had himself tied to the mask if you've heard that song and everybody on his crew put wax in there so they were able to sail him by but he heard the song oh yes so what he wanted to hear the song but to be safe so isn't that that insulting the whole legend is insulting so and I made it

actually the sirens are gorgeous creatures who play and sing on the island and have a great old time the sailors crash their boats on the rock because the song is so mesmerizing they run up to the island and they live happily ever after with the sirens so being a modern siren where your song yes your song your individual unique message feeling everything about you your song is so unique that you call to men they come to you and you all live happily ever after

SPEAKER 2

Oh that sounds wonderful that that's fantastic and you know what's really sad is I've never really thought about the whole siren story that way but you're right that's exactly what it is it's it's from fear you know we can rewire things and we can rewrite them we don't have to accept that shit yes I love that no that is fantastic that is I like that and you know I just think it's just a beautiful thing for us to realize that we can do that

We can't change stories.

We don't have to accept those things.

And that is hugely freeing and amazing and beautiful.

SPEAKER 1

Ruan yeah I think that you're saying it all that we can change our own story about ourselves what we're doing that doesn't feel right how to do what does feel right to us.

SPEAKER 2

And so how do women apply this say they're in a marriage and their spouse is completely against all of this how can they start to still make changes if they're being faced by someone who does not is not open to those changes?

SPEAKER 1

What kind of changes would you suggest?

SPEAKER 2

Like say they want to be more open sexually or say they want to try sex toys, but their husband is against that.

SPEAKER 1

I would be shocked that any man would be against that.

SPEAKER 2

Oh, I've seen them.

Well, they get threatened by it.

They think, oh, I'm going to get replaced by this.

SPEAKER 1

Well, buy yourself a lovely vibrator toy that's nice and soft and practice on your own with it.

Put it in your sock drawer.

Practice on your own.

See how you feel.

Develop a feeling for it.

Allow yourself to do it without him.

And then bring it on out one day and say, Hi, I've been playing with this.

I would love to put it in your hand.

See what he does.

No, no, no, no, no.

Even better, how about sex ties that don't replace him?

You know, rings.

just go ahead give me an example of something that a man would be upset by other than a dildo which i think could be problematic so don't choose those don't force that issue so what are some things that you think would be beneficial to a man what would he like how about what kind of situations would you say women run into

SPEAKER 2

and I have seen a few women who or I've had a few women come to me online just saying like their husbands aren't open to sex toys or one woman even came to me and said she's never had an orgasm and wanted a sex toy to help her reach one which that was really very sad to read because she was I think she was in her 60s and she had never had an orgasm and I

She had heard me talk on a podcast about, I think I was talking about, it was either talking about, I think I was talking about the clit sucker.

And she wanted to know about that because she had never had an orgasm.

So yeah, that's true.

I mean, I guess if you're thinking about if the man is offended or feels like they're going to be replaced by a sex toy, try a different form of sex toy.

There's so many different ones out there, right?

You can just try a different shape, a different style other than an actual dildo that looks more like him.

SPEAKER 1

Okay this is so big this is so huge having an orgasm is like health it's like women's health and Emma Thompson did a great movie about it a couple of years ago I forgot the name I heard about that yeah but that you know something we could talk about how

Many 60-year-old women have never had that experience because they're terrified to broach the situation with their husbands and not having success of their own.

So my suggestion is you start without the dildo, that you start without the toy and then you start to believe your own hands have power.

And we want to empower ourselves by, you know, rub yourself on things, take your hands and see if we talked about before if, if you numb out when you start working, touching yourself.

There's some great books around that are helpful but most of them are technical.

There's a wonderful book, Diana Richardson I believe wrote about peak and valley orgasms.

So there are a lot of ways to feel your own body and a lot of ways your own body can respond with practice.

So consider this first.

Feel yourself.

Practice yourself.

Find out what it feels like when you touch your breast.

Find out what it feels like if you imagine doing a meditation with your eyes open where some mystic guy comes up to you.

and notice when it feels good and notice when you shut yourself down and then keep practicing making it part of your teeth brushing routine.

When your husband is not around you go into private and you start experimenting with yourself until you start to stay awake and stay alive until you start to feel something.

You start to feel something vaginally then you keep working at it and you just slowly allow yourself to melt

into what would be more like a valley orgasm of just letting it happen just feeling it and letting it kind of slide out just experiencing that to yourself and it could take a while all right a toy might be too much stimulation for you right now and it might completely shut you down so practice gently going to staying awake alive and in tune and feeling turned on for as long as you can and sliding into that orgasm

when you've accomplished that then simply try to do that with him where you slide in and find out where he scares you makes you shut down just take a breath and go oh I need to step back for a second continue to use your hand with yourself if he pushes your hand away then grab his hand put him on in other words you need to teach him slowly grab his hand and say this feels good

Right.

But where's it coming from?

You've taught yourself.

You're learning yourself.

So start with that rather than with plastic and stuff like that because it's very delicate.

Not your body.

Your body isn't delicate.

It's your emotional system, your nervous system.

If you have never let go like that, learning to do that is a process for you.

And if you need help, there are many coaches out there, but I can pretty much assure you I know several who are amazing.

And I'm sure Ruan knows several who can help you gently get into yourself.

That is the secret.

SPEAKER 2

Yeah.

And what I really like what you're saying is you don't have to expect quick results.

Like this is, this is, this is something you can practice at.

This is something you can approach as slowly as you want.

you can take as long as you want.

And I think too, I think doing it alone I think is really huge too because there's no one looking at you, there's no one expecting, you know, there's no pressure.

SPEAKER 1

There's no pressure except for the pressure we put on ourselves.

and I think that we put more pressure on ourselves than anyone you know the breathing is important usually we hear people say breathe and we go yeah sure but actually if you can learn how to box breathe and be aware of your breathing you know breathe

Hold.

Let go.

Hold.

Breathe.

Hold.

Let go.

And just focus on taking a big breath deep into your belly.

Actually just learning to breathe all the way into your belly and let your belly expand instead of holding in your belly.

That's going to be a big win for you.

Learning how to do that much.

And when you start to shut down, when you're fondling yourself, breathe into the space.

Breathe into the space.

Realize that you are the only person watching you and you're the one that is pressuring yourself and please do not allow yourself to be angry with yourself for pressuring yourself.

Fall in love with it I always say.

Fall in love with the part of you that's pressuring you and go wow this is old.

I feel you pressuring.

I feel myself pressuring myself.

I feel you.

it's okay just you know it's all right just slowly fall in love with every inch of you and every feeling you have and every impulse you have and you would be surprised if you allow yourself to do this how quickly it happens it actually does happen faster that way but when you try to push yourself it takes way longer

SPEAKER 2

And what I was thinking about now just too, as you were talking, was if you are nervous or you are apprehensive, you may have a tense pelvis.

You may be tensing those muscles, but if you're by yourself, you could maybe pay attention to, Oh, I'm tensing this.

Oh, I'm tensing there.

I need to try and relax this area.

Right?

Right.

SPEAKER 1

Brilliant.

SPEAKER 2

Totally yes.

I think we all do that and I noticed that too and I paid more attention to my body where I'm like I can tell I've been like tensing my abdomen or squeezing it and I have to like consciously think okay I need to relax like it's a conscious thought.

SPEAKER 1

because it's a habit, right?

That was brilliant.

Yes, it's a habit.

We've created habits and we need to undo those old patterns and habits.

And you know, the thing that I've noticed in my life right now is time is the problem.

Finding the time for self-care and self-care we think of doing our face.

I mean, well, this is self-care.

You know, taking a lot of women can take baths.

I don't allow myself that time.

but there's some things I allow myself time for but that is where I let myself down the most is not giving myself the time and I call it percolating we need the time to go down deeper into ourselves so if you can find and make deliberate time for things like that for yourself like that and to sit in a red light

Whatever it is that you're not giving yourself time for to breathe, to practice relaxing.

A lot of people feel it's okay to give the time to meditate.

Well, make this a meditation.

Meditate while you are taking care of yourself sexually and practicing that way.

SPEAKER 2

And I think one thing that a lot of women, myself included, had to get rid of was that guilt and shame of taking that time.

Wow.

SPEAKER 1

I think we all feel it.

I think if we all, if you're at home for the day, sitting down to eat makes you feel guilty.

Rather than standing up at the counter and inhaling it, right?

That's what falsehood is.

We can make ourselves feel guilty for so many things.

Something just occurred to me, washing dishes in the sink.

Well, how can you feel guilty about having to wash dishes?

Well, what if you wash dishes but you're not focusing on the dishes and feeling all tense?

That makes us feel not guilty.

But what if you relax and let go and watch the water and felt the sensuality of the water on your hands or on the glove and watched it pull up in the things and took your time and breathe while you were

Washing the Dish.

Would you feel guilty?

Yes.

It's going to happen to you just for taking a moment to not be in masculine energy.

So the moment you let anything be, the moment you let the gestalt experience where you are and everything around you, you're going to feel the guilt and the shame is going to come up.

So let it.

Don't push it away.

let it come up and go wow I feel guilty wow I love you guilt wow I feel so bad about that wow I love you bad feeling just try that just try loving all these parts that come up and all the bad feelings because they're just hiding the good feelings the bad feelings are just the ones in what I call your emotional soup

and if you can't touch the horrible terrible feelings it's hard to feel the ecstasy and the love it's a matter of accessing your entire emotional landscape so let the feelings come up and fall in love with them which will bring in the love and the feelings and it happens really fast you get into it all of a sudden you don't let people talk to you the way they used to talk to you yeah

SPEAKER 2

I don't know what you're saying.

It is.

People get trapped in those bad feelings and we just sit there and we circle around and around and get pushed around and but we stay there and we need to get out of that.

Yes yes I love that thinking of just like I mean why can't we think of the water being beautiful or flowing as we're washing dishes?

This is ridiculous that we have got this in our heads that we have to be like okay I gotta wash this then that and the next thing I need to do I need to do this that you have like this big laundry list in your head instead of just being and existing being in the moment.

SPEAKER 1

that's lovely and you just said was the perfect start if you're finding yourself feeling yourself all tensing up while you're doing the dishes in the house too and the things are piling up and your kitchen's a mess and your room is a mess and your work is a mess and the office is a mess the way to get into that is to stop just for a second just stop yourself take it all in and say wow i feel the pressure i feel the mess

Oh, I feel how badly organized I'm feeling.

I love you part that is so completely messed up.

I love you part of yourself myself that's so rushed I feel the rush and what'll happen is the sadness will start to come in that is the part we don't want to feel so we feel all the other stuff so as soon as you start to feel the the sadness let it happen that is what's going to happen a lot when you start to feel moved

When you have a feeling, don't label it as anger, this, that, just say, I feel moved.

And the first feeling when you feel moved, if you really look at a piece of grass in front of you, it's going to feel sad.

That's going to be the first feeling that comes up.

So instead of pushing it away or closing it down, just feel it.

I promise you.

it will overwhelm you for a moment let it overwhelm you and then other feelings will come up more beautiful all of a sudden you'll see the grass and all of a sudden you'll see more and your vision will get bigger and your heart will get bigger and your energy field would get bigger and you know this is physiological and I'm learning this now just now

Our blood vessels are like constricted.

Most of us have problems with that.

We're like tiny little contracted blood vessels.

We faint if we take something that opens them up.

So what you want to do is let yourself expand.

We're so busy trying to attract so we don't feel the pain.

Feel the pain.

Be brave.

You're a woman.

You can feel the pain.

Feel the emotional pain.

It will get less and less and less and it'll fade.

And what'll happen is the good feelings you'll start to let in.

And this will happen in sex, right?

Because you're gonna be able to start feeling the good feelings instead of the guilt and the shame, because we're focusing on trying to push those away.

Instead, feel it.

I feel guilty.

I feel shame.

Okay.

And then all of a sudden you'll feel something good as well.

SPEAKER 2

Right.

It's kind of like an awakening, I would say, right?

That's the word that comes to my brain.

And it really is.

It's an awakening to, well, I guess your feminine energy, to all the things around you, all the things you're feeling, seeing, touching.

And that is what we need to do.

I just, and we can practice it.

I love that, that whole practice idea, because it's something that you feel like you have power over.

SPEAKER 1

That's a big word, power.

We feel powerless a lot of the time.

And that's because we've been made to feel like second class men when actually we are first class women.

SPEAKER 2

That's right.

Absolutely we are.

And I think that we also need to get recognizing this in other women, right?

Like we need to be there for other women and be, you know, I mean, that's just what we should be doing and not this other crap of

you know, feeling in competition or judging.

Judging is a really bad one.

There's a lot of judging.

SPEAKER 1

If you're judging another person, it just essentially means you're judging yourself.

So when you find yourself judging and assessing another person, know that it's coming from the fact that you're judging and assessing yourself.

So if you acknowledge that, then you're going to feel guilty and you're going to feel bad and you're going to fight that.

And your inner self, your inner ego and self is going to fight all of that.

Let it happen instead.

Pushing and pushing things away is masculine energy.

It will not help you in love or sex or anything.

Feeling all the pain, feeling it happen and just go, Oh, I'm judging myself too.

She's lovely.

She's doing what she wants.

I get to do what I want also.

I get to be who I am.

She gets to be who she is.

It becomes like an equation.

if i feel judgmental towards her change it and go why instead of why is that nasty woman getting that beautiful man right because we see that a lot it's like wait a minute she is her and she gets that man i'm feeling bad because i don't have the man i want and i'm

Whoa, and I must be nasty not to him but to myself.

I'm being nasty to myself.

Whoa, I love you part of myself that's nasty to myself.

And you, thank you so much for coming by and showing me that I was nasty to myself.

Oh, thank you.

Message taken, yes.

Let yourself go through that process every single time and pretty soon you will start to feel more empowered and less judgmental of yourself.

And when you're angry at someone else, 99% of the time you're just angry at yourself is what's happening.

And so notice I'm angry at that person.

Why?

What's going on?

I'm angry with myself.

What did I do?

I let myself be talked to that way.

I let him handle me that way.

I let him ignore me that way.

I'm angry with myself and instead I'm trying to be angry with him for ignoring me when in actuality we're angry with ourselves for allowing that to happen and then we get all then we go through all kinds of machinations instead of quick one is fall in love I'm angry with myself I let that happen oh poor little girl that was myself and let that happen I must have learned how to do that he's just

completely not alert.

He does not know.

Just look at him as some poor little boy who had some bad lessons.

Unless he's a nasty person and he's always being angry at you and he's pushing you and he's narcissistic, that's something Ruan I'm sure will talk about in a different way.

But I deal with that a lot with women who are finding themselves under somebody's thumb.

It could be anybody.

You have to feel for the person you are that is allowing that and knowing that is how you were trained to be and that is how women are trained to be.

and how you need to rise up but not necessarily be angry with them at first.

You need to kind of make peace with I'm angry with myself and then you go to the big one which is what do I want?

I want him to love me I want to feel loved I want to feel touched I want to remember that's where you have to start not with he didn't do that I have to figure out how to get him to fix this no I want this I want this I want this and it changes your vibe and as soon as it changes your vibe he's going to look at you and go

And as soon as you start saying, I feel sad, instead of trying to hide it, he's gonna go, oh honey, what's wrong?

And if he doesn't, then that's another layer you get to discover about the man you've chosen.

There's so much here.

I mean, we're doing it in an hour, we're trying to solve everything.

But just know that when you say, I'm gonna fall in love with that part of myself I do not like, it will shift everything because everything is a message out there.

Forget the mirror part of it, it's a message.

You know, that woman showed up to show you how you are angry with yourself.

That man showed up and said that to show how you were talking to yourself.

Just take it internally and then don't try to change yourself.

Instead, fall in love with it.

I promise you, you're going to see a whole different life for yourself very quickly.

SPEAKER 2

That makes a lot of sense.

And that touches on one of the things I wanted to talk about was if one partner, you know, if she feels neglected

SPEAKER 3

and like you're saying you have a woman has to realize that she's allowed also allowed that to happen and she hasn't focused on herself if you focus on yourself

SPEAKER 1

is a whole different story.

A whole different story.

My first marriage I was neglected.

I allowed my husband to neglect me and it just made me more afraid and made me want to cling more and be more nice and everything because that's who I was.

Right.

Right and friends say to me neglect is a form of abuse and I heard neglect is a form of abuse well you know what

it feels quite abusive but he may not be doing it on purpose he may simply have absolutely no clue right how to be with you because you have not asked him you've not instructed him men need direction men need instructions without being masculine energy push like you did that wrong

if you tell a man he did something wrong he'll never hear you ever.

But if you tell him what you want he's gonna try and make it happen and once we get the hang of that but I probably never once said what I wanted and you know just as an interesting side light and then when I left him when he got a divorce

I thought many times, well I could have fixed that if I knew them when I know thou.

But no, that was then and I found another man, a whole other story about, theoretically not my type, but who has turned out to be, you know, this magnificent human who responds to me.

you know who if I said I want this would give it to me would want to give it to me want to as opposed to just all right it's it's a whole passage if you are stuck in a situation where you being neglected and feel neglected ask yourself first where am I neglecting myself right

and ask yourself what am I not talking about the self-care and the touching yourself and and giving yourself time where am I not doing that and then you start doing that and you start feeling the guilt and then you start loving that and you go through the process of healing your own self about neglect and pretty soon you're going to stop trying to get it from him

and he's going to go what she's not trying to get my attention anymore what happened and he's going to change he will all of a sudden start showing up and you will go what happened and all you did was start paying more attention to yourself

It's as simple as that it's an energetic thing we are all in an energetic dynamic with people in our relationship and we're in an energetic alignment how we can handle it and we choose people who can handle it about the same as we can and what happens is when a woman grows and she can handle way more energy than a man can that's when marriages fall apart.

Yeah.

And none of us want our marriages to fall apart so we don't grow.

I'm here to tell you, let it happen.

Grow.

Don't be angry.

Just grow yourself and ask for what you want.

And yes, it's not that easy, but you can get there very quickly.

You really can.

SPEAKER 2

Right.

And you'll, like you said, you'll find out that if that's not going to flow, then maybe it's time for it to be over.

Right?

Time for that relationship to end.

And that isn't the end of the world.

SPEAKER 1

It feels like the end of the world.

When I left that relationship, my first marriage, I did many stupid things.

Many stupid things.

But the most stupid thing I did was follow the belief that I shouldn't be dating.

I shouldn't be dating.

I shouldn't be with men.

I shouldn't do any of that because I hadn't grown myself.

You know?

And what happened was after years I was as stupid as I was at the beginning.

Dating and interacting with men, if you're into men, if you're into women, same thing.

Interacting with other people is how you learn.

It's how you learn and they reflect back to you how you feel about yourself.

This is how you get the feedback like a feedback machine in your brain.

This is how it works.

You'll get there 10 times faster

If you break up with a man, starting to date right away and getting help and feedback from that man who is your free therapist and from, and I always suggest a coach, somebody who can hold your hand and help you with words and help you script yourself and help you learn how to speak from your heart instead of your brain.

Women meet the man of their dreams within months and are ready for that man.

And it's a shock to everybody.

And usually they are not their usual type.

Or the man that they started with, they completely turned that around by stopping wanting them to do what we need to do for ourselves.

SPEAKER 2

Right.

Right.

I love that, that you can make changes in your life and in your relationships by starting with yourself.

And that is, that is a message that needs to get out to every woman, every woman.

It's amazing.

And so you teach other coaches.

So tell me a little bit about that.

You have coach training where you teach other coaches to teach women.

Tell me a little bit about that.

SPEAKER 1

Thank you for bringing that up.

It's called the Rory Ray Method is how the coaching and if you ever get a coach trained by me you'll experience that.

It's all very role-playing and practicing and your coach will pretend to be a man.

and you will interact with her and she will script you it's like nothing else you've seen out there it's almost like rehearsing it's almost like you get to practice and get led in the correct direction and because she can see you over Zoom and I can see you and I do some masterclasses where I can see you and I'm happy to see you I can see you and I work one-to-one and do demos

is we can see your face we can see your energy we can actually feel your subconscious we can feel where you're shutting down and you can't feel it at all we can feel when you're saying something feeling but it's not really being felt in your in yourself where you're just saying something mechanic we can feel it and we'll keep going until you feel and yes there's some crying and there's a lot of laughing

because all of a sudden something becomes funny that was once so serious and sometimes just that very day you can have a you can talk to a man in a completely new way so this is a methodology I developed you know as an actress so it's improv it's all kinds of things and it should be unteachable but I started teaching it about 10 11 years ago and there's some great coaches out there that you've heard of Helena Hart, Adrienne Everhart, I mean superstar coaches who

were originally taught by me and now there are new superstars happening every day it's very exciting it feels like you know this is what my life is supposed to be about so there are a lot of them now and if you want to come in it's actually less expensive than pretty much any other coach training out there I just made it that way and we have to creepy crawl our way to trying to be expensive but essentially you're going to

with a coach that has been super trained and is super awesome and can do as well as I can in training you to work with another and you can work with men too but with a woman to actually help her get into her feelings and speak them.

This is a big deal right?

yeah and that's what that coach training is and it lasts 22 weeks you can take it to a year if you want there's ridiculous amount of yes videos and classes and all kinds of stuff like that but mostly it's one-to-one training where there's an interaction so you're actually get to practice coaching from day one and you learn

how it all works and if you know anything about me or my tools and the modern siren stuff we we teach you how to do them with another person so that you could use a tool like dropping down into your feelings we call it scaffolding all kinds of funny names for tools to make it more

you know cartoonish so it's less you feel less defensive when it happens and and feel more improvisational like grabbing on oars of a boat and rowing your boat is being in masculine energy so yeah we kind of put you in these situations and

It makes you able to help other women and of course it changes your own life at the same time so there are a lot of women that take it as personal stuff but almost all of them are working coaches now and they're out there and you probably see them on Instagram all over the place.

Oh yes Instagram is loaded.

If a coach is speaking feminine energy she's probably one of my coaches.

SPEAKER 2

That's awesome.

SPEAKER 1

That is totally awesome.

And I would love to work with you.

You're phenomenal Ruan.

You should be a coach.

SPEAKER 2

I know.

I've often thought of that.

So people can find you at www.coachroary.com and then also your masterclass.

I don't think we really talked about that.

Sex and Romance Masterclass.

Tell us about that.

SPEAKER 1

we did it live and unfortunately it's not live anymore but it's all captured and it's just all me and Mariah Gray who is you know lived in the polyamory and we have day-to-day specialists we have women who've had all kinds of different experiences great great great coaches and we're all working with other women and we're just talking and talking and talking and it's one of my favorite ones

This particular interview my dear is one of my favorite anythings.

SPEAKER 2

That's awesome.

I love that.

That's fantastic.

I've had a blast.

I mean, I think I could keep talking to you forever.

Like there's so many amazing things that we've only touched on.

So this has been just totally amazing.

Is there anything else that we haven't said that you really wanted to say in this particular episode?

We can talk again in the future though.

SPEAKER 1

Let's please.

Yeah, for sure.

I know most people just talk very raw about sex as if it's mechanical.

And you really delved into this deeper place with me and I really appreciate it.

I think it's crucial.

I think if women do not, if we women do not come into ourselves, everything's going to take longer in this world.

And the more we can come into ourselves as a community, the faster everybody's going to be happy.

SPEAKER 2

Totally agree.

For sure.

Absolutely.

She's been so great.

So everyone check her out.

Her links will be down in the podcast show notes.

Her books.

You can check out your books.

Are your books on Amazon or anywhere else?

SPEAKER 1

They're on all the websites I think.

So you'll find them.

And you know if you have a personal question, if this brought up, write me.

Write me Rory at CoachRory.com.

and either I will answer you or my siren school director Natalina Love, a spectacular coach will answer you or we'll get a specialist and you'll get an answer right away you'll get an actual answer and there's a blog that's all free so you know read read but know that those articles are probably little tiny snapshots so they're not gonna say the whole picture but personal relationship with the women in the world is my thing so feel free to write me

and will guide you to what we think might be helpful to you and then let you choose and kind of roam around and see what feels right for you.

SPEAKER 2

Beautiful.

Wonderful.

Thank you so much.

This has been amazing.

So thank you so much for coming on my show.

It's been amazing.

SPEAKER 1

Thank you Ruan for having me.

This is, you're a fantastic interviewer.

SPEAKER 2

Oh I had a lot of fun.

I hope you did too.

It was a blast.

So thank you.

All right bye-bye.

Bye-bye.

Thank you for listening to our amazing discussion.

We had such a great chat.

Oh my gosh wasn't it amazing?

It was so amazing.

She has so many amazing things to say and can move you forward in your life, put you places you want to be,

Explore your feminine energy.

I mean, we as women have power.

We just need to harness it and use it and realize we have it.

Down in the show notes are her links and mine as well.

Don't forget to check those out and don't forget to enjoy your life and your body.

We were given these organs for a reason, these feelings in these organs to enjoy our bodies, to have connection with our lovers, increase our intimacy.

But all of that.

Don't forget to come today because that will give you your release of stress relieving hormones, your feel good power in your own body.

Take your own power.

Use your own body to be healthy.

Stress reduction.

It's also a great sleep aid.

You can get all of that.

It's yours.

You own it in your body.

Don't let people tell you that you can't because it's not true.

You own your body and you get to enjoy your body.

Just like you enjoy your taste buds and you eat a strawberry or your favorite food, pizza, whatever it is you like.

You were given those abilities, those sensations to enjoy food.

We were given sensations in our genitals to enjoy sexual relations with ourself and with others.

So make sure you come today.

Oh, Fck Yeah.

Have an amazing day.

Love you.

Bye bye.
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